Wedding superstitions – why do we still adhere to them?
Very few of us do not know some or other superstition that brides and grooms have on their wedding days, but where do these concepts come from and maybe even more important – what happens if you decide to ignore them?
Since the very first wedding ceremony, superstition crawled up close and settled down as part and parcel of all weddings to follow.
Ever heard the rhyme, something old, something new, something borrowed something blue? Sure you have, but what does it actually mean?
One of the very first brides to follow this tradition was Queen Victoria. Known as a woman that dictated to the world, her doings were copied religiously in generations to follow.
Something old pointed to an object given to the bride by an already married woman that thus passed her wisdom of a happy marriage to the bride.
Something new was a gift from friends and rich people to start the couple of on a good footing. In early days these included diamonds and silver – never pearls, as a bride wearing pearls would cry a tear for every pearl she wore.
Something borrowed came to light as an opportunity for family members to show off their wealth. This gift was given with the understanding that the couple would return it secretly later on after every one admired the glorious family heirloom.
Something blue indicates that the bride is of good nature, healthy and ready to bear children. The very first blue elements at weddings came from Israel where the bride got a blue ribbon in her hair to show that she passed her virginity test.
Together these tokens ensured that the couple would be happy, rich, respected and blessed with children.
Grooms often sport a flower in their top buttonhole. This flower should be taken from the bride’s bouquet. This flower reflects back on ancient times when a knight would wear the colours of his love into war. Not wearing a flower from the bouquet meant that the love bond will never be sealed in heaven and the couple lived in sin as far as the church was concerned. After the wedding, the bride would sow a piece of her dress onto her groom’s clothes to show that he carried her heart with him,
The white wedding dress also came from Queen Victoria that true to her demanding nature refused the traditional royal wedding dress opting for a white one instead. Before she stepped out in white, brides did not really wear wedding dresses, but rather dressed up in their best clothes and as close to traditional as possible.
This new craze for white dresses brought with it a whole new set of rules. Never seen in green meant that a bride with grass stains on her frock surely could not be a virgin.
Making her own wedding dress was completely unheard of and never did the bride see her whole outfit at the same time until she got dressed on her day. Fittings were done without mirrors so that she could not see the dress and thus bring bad luck onto her wedding. The final stitch of the dress was made as the bride left for the ceremony. A virgin should do this task or the bride was sure to carry the lovers of the woman making the final stitch to the pulpit in her heart.
To stop evil spirits from identifying the bride, people got dressed in similar outfits and walked round the bride. Today these women are called brides maids. Having a pregnant bridesmaid in your party was the very best of luck and fertility was guaranteed.
The bride also walked to the ceremony. This gave her better chance to see good signs along the road. Seeing a rainbow meant true happiness. Spotting a black cat was considered a blessing, but only on your way to church. Creative mothers always ensured that many good omens were placed on route to the ceremony. Today we line the isle with flowers.
The veil was used to protect the bride from seeing bad omens. Her face was quickly covered to stop her from seeing lizards, nuns, pigs, black birds or God forbid she saw a grave. These meant sure unhappiness all her days of married life.
There are a million other superstitions. Please share yours with us or maybe you decided to go against them
– what happened? Tell us please.