Take a breath – you got this. Just take it all one step at a time. Here are the things you need to do right after you get engaged
You’re finally engaged! He got down on one knee, or she said yes, and now you are ready to start planning your lives together. It’s an exciting time, and there is so much to do! So where do you start? You know the basics that go into a wedding, but all the details can be overwhelming. Plus, you likely have everyone asking you a million questions for which you don’t have the answer and you just don’t know what to do.
Call to Break the News
Don’t tell the world that you’re engaged by changing your relationship status on Facebook or posting a tweet. Sure, it’s the easy way to do it, but it’s also tacky. And you’ll end up hurting a lot of feelings that way.
Always, always, always break big news like this to people in person. You can either tell them when you see them next, or you can call them and tell them over the phone. Do not let people hear the news through someone else or through social media or they’ll think that they’re not important to you and will resent it. You may have to spend more time telling everyone individually, but you’ll preserve your relationships and save yourself a lot of drama.
Get the Ring Sized and Insured
The first thing people do when you tell them you’re engaged is to ask to see the ring. You don’t want the ring to be slipping off your finger or to be cutting off your circulation. Get the ring sized as soon as possible so that it fits properly and looks like the treasure that it is atop your lovely finger.
While you are doing that, go ahead and get the ring insured, as well. Your engagement ring may be the most valuable thing you own – and it certainly is when factoring in the sentimental value. Don’t lose it by losing or damaging the ring without proper insurance.
Set a Date
Right after oohing and aahing over your ring, the next thing people will do when you tell them that you’re engaged is to ask when you will be married. You don’t have to have a specific date, but you should have at least a general time frame, like “next summer” or “probably early next year.”
Things may easily change based on work schedules, the availability of the venue and of wedding vendors, and health issues, but it’s important that you at least have a time frame to start your planning.
Set a Budget
Now is the time for you and your fiancé to have some serious married talk. Financial issues are some of the leading problems in relationships, and especially in marriages. By setting a budget early in the wedding planning process, you may be able to head off any financial problems. Don’t wait until you are caught up in the excitement of planning and it is easy to overspend.
Talk to your fiancé about the kind of wedding you envision, such as a small and intimate affair in your parent’s home or a lavish gala at the historic mansion two towns over. The type of wedding you want will influence your budget. Then look at how much you have available between the two of you – or how much you can save – and how much your parents are willing to contribute. Your budget will be a compromise between all these elements.
Pick a Location
Your wedding venue will influence just about everything. From the exact date you can get married to the type of theme you will have. You may know where you want to get married, but you may not ultimately get that venue because it’s so popular that you can get a date or because it’s out of your budget (or for other reasons). So go ahead and start shopping for venues now.
Keep in mind that you do not have to have your ceremony and reception in the same location. However, if you choose two venues, be sure that they are close enough together to be convenient for guests. Also, know that having two venues complicates the planning since they may not be available on the same day or at the right times.
Pick Your Bridal Party
Before you can start doing the rest of your wedding planning, you really need a maid of honour or a best man by your side. Now is the time to pick your bridal party, starting with those two most important roles and then working down the list.
Talk to your fiancé about what people they would like to pick. If symmetry and gender alignment are important to you, you will need to make sure you are on the same page. Otherwise, you’ll be able to pick whomever you want, even if that means you have two ladies on your side and he has 10 groomsmen on his.
Register for Gifts
One of the most fun aspects of getting ready for your wedding is registering for gifts. It’s one of the first things you can do after getting engaged. Make sure that you register before your engagement party since most people will want to bring you a little gift. They can use your registry for ideas. Just let your maid of honour or best man know where you are registered to spread the word.
There are a lot of other things you can do right after you are engaged, such as start meeting with wedding planners, ask your parents for guest lists, or put together a wedding website or blog. One of the most important things you need to do is have fun! Start looking online and in magazines for ideas, and have fun putting together scrapbooks and vision boards of your big day. You only get to do this once – enjoy it!